Breakups and divorces are no fun. Whether it was mutual or done by one of the parties, it sucks, right? Breakups can cause long-term depression and a feeling of being unwanted. The person maybe depressed, especially if the relationship has lasted for years.

If you are reading this and someone broke your heart, I want you to remember, it is absolutely okay to be hurt and upset. But, there are some things to remember.

Do Not Let it Take You to a Dark Place

As I said, it is okay to be hurt and upset. But, don’t let it start to make you question your worth, make you feel unlovable and unwanted. Sadness is a natural human emotion, but negative thoughts are a stupid foolish distortion of lies.

In other words, feel the loss, but don’t believe the lies.

Do Not Get Revenge

You may think that it will feel good to call them names, throw eggs at their house, etc. You may feel good at first, but the feelings will come right back. And it will show them that you are hurting even more. I don’t want you to show them that. I want you to show them how happy you will be without them.

Do you want to know why? It is because you are better and higher than that. Revenge will give them justification why they left you. Moving forward will give them regrets.

The feelings you are going through are absolutely normal. However, these same feelings will eventually subside and your quality of life will improve with new happier feelings. That all depends on you.

Kick Them Off the Pedestal

THEY ARE NOT GODS. They are normal people that you happened to put on an exaggerated pedestal. They are not as powerful as you think, they have their own insecurities and problems. They are not perfect. Why are you dwelling on someone who intentionally hurt you?

Show this person that you are better than that. Show them that you are not even going to concern yourself with them. You are NOT meant to be with them. If someone loves you, they don’t hurt you intentionally. Simple as that.

Live! and Live Your Best Life

Heal if you must, cry if you must, but get back up and start living your life. You are being redirected to someone inevitably you are meant to be with.

Do Not Contact Them

The person who broke your heart will obviously realize that you do not even call them after the breakup, or even want to see them. They will notice that you are not giving them the attention, you have respect for yourself, and you are focused on other things that are going on in your life. Important things like spending time with families, friends, your goals, etc.

If the person broke your heart comes back to you, then …

Do NOT Go Back to Them

They hurt you once. What makes you think they won’t do it again? You have no room for that and most importantly, you do not deserve it. It is too late. You have already, or you will, move on and be happier and better off without them.

This is just a chapter in your life, my friend. The happy ending story is going to be for the person that sees your value, importance and loves you unconditionally. Get rid of anything that reminds you of them. Pictures, birthday cards letters, gifts, etc. Put them in a box and hide it in an attic, if you are not ready to toss it out.

I once dated a girl who wanted a sexual relationship with me, but I was not on the same page as her. I wanted a relationship with her, first. I wanted movies, dinner, walking along the beach, cuddling, etc. Well, she just wanted to do only one thing. I was heartbroken when she said that. And obviously it did not work out.

As I look back, it would have never worked out and I would have sustained a life full of despair had it continued. I am glad it did not work out because God brought me to someone who wanted to have a relationship. It was someone who loved exactly what I loved.

So, just remember, it was for the best that your situation did not work out because the universe wants something better for you.

Do Not Give up on Love

If someone broke your heart, you may fear going out on dates again. And it understandable, but not advisable. Do not go running into a new relationship to fill a gap. It doesn’t work. I want you to spend some time alone and reassess your life. Start focusing on hobbies, goals, friends, families and doing what you love.

There is someone for everyone. You never know how things happen, but they do. And when they do, you will know it is not by any coincidence.

One Person Hurt You in a Relationship

Yeah, like they are the only people that exist. Of course not. There are people out there looking for someone who is kind, gentle and a loving soul like you. Believe that the Universe will bring you two together. But the only thing you’ve got to do is keep moving forward and focusing on what I wrote above.

Any breakup does not devalue you in any way, shape or form. You are going to be fine and this is not permanent. Use this breakup as a way to break free from them. And flourish towards a life of peace and contentment. They are in your past. Leave them there.

God bless you and never give up!

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